Dear Demi Lovato


So, I am a big fan of MTV. I commend them for tackling issues that are wildly important to our young people. About a week ago, they aired a documentary about Demi Lovato titled, “Stay Strong”. Camera crews were by Demi’s side during her first tour post-rehab.

*Demi was treated for anorexia, bulimia, and cutting in early 2011*

I watched the documentary.

It really made me think about my 19 year old self. What do I KNOW now that I wish I would have KNOWN then?

As someone who kicked an eating disorder in the A$$, I feel compelled to write a letter to this beautiful, young girl with a great, big, LIFE ahead of her.

The thing is, this letter is addressed to Demi, but really, it’s to the 19 year old me, to the mothers still battling and trying to keep it all together, to the grandmothers that still haven’t found peace, to our friends that never feel good enough, and, maybe most importantly, to all the young girls of the world that have the power to make a difference.

And so, myfitnessangel friends, I bring to you,

“Dear Demi.”

Dear Demi,

At the tender age of 19, your world may feel at times so big, maybe too big. Too many dreams, too many possibilites, too many things unknown.


The crazy thing is, your world may also feel so small and so lonely.

I wish I could tell you that at some magic moment those two worlds will collide and it will all make sense.

That’s not gonna happen sister. That, is the crazy little thing called LIFE.

What I can tell you, is that the world does get easier to “be” in. BUT, you have to learn to “be” first.

BE brave, BE bold, BE honest.

Be BRAVE with others – tell ’em what you NEED and don’t settle for less. Surround yourself with positivity and l.o.v.e.


Make BOLD choices – just go for it. Whatever you can believe, you can achieve. THAT, is a true statement.

BE honest with yourself. This is a tough one. I mean, REALLY tough sometimes.

Are you loving YOU for YOU? Are you treating yourself with unconditional LOVE and RESPECT?

Answer honestly, for you and only you. The truth really does set you free.

Know what you ARE and what you ARE NOT…then BE that.

It is impossible to serve two masters. You cannot be in recovery and also try to “be fit”.


Ya, I speak your language sista. When you say “be fit”, I believe you mean:


Not gonna happen. No way, no how, not happenin.

That’s Lights! Camera! Action!

Recovery is just the opposite.

The deal is this, GOD gave you a wonderful, glorious body. HE also gave you some crazy mad TALENT to go with that BODY. YOUR BODY was made just for YOU!

You will BE much happier if you REDEFINE your definition of “BE FIT”.

The “in recovery” definition of “be fit” should be all about the things you CAN DO and what you ARE:


Get through this! Do what I LOVE! Feel strong and empowered!


beautiful*perfect just as I am*ok*strong*smart*talented

not what you can’t:


Being “fit” is not a size or a number, it’s a feeling from within that you first must choose. You then need to let go. Let go of perfection, the highs and the lows, feast or famine. Just let it all go, and move on to the REAL YOU.

Get it. Own it. Rock it.

Throw away your scale. Keep your favorite letters and photographs. Journal. Take risks. Try new things. Cherish the happy memories, write them down. Take a day off to see a movie and eat ice cream. Run in the park. Write love notes on your mirror with red lipstick. Compliment yourself just as much as you compliment others. BE comfortable eating alone, and with others. Connect with people, acknowledge your fears. Set your own boundaries and respect those of others. Believe that you already have all the answers. Make mistakes & learn from them. Don’t dwell. Cry when you need to, laugh just because. Smile not only at those around you, but at the beauty looking back at you in that mirror that DOES lie. Eat what tastes GOOD. Give thanks everyday for the little things that make you whole. Don’t worry. LIVE with abandon, but don’t be reckless. Just BE.

In the end, it’s your life, your time. Make it count and always,



Stay strong fitness angels.

And in case you forget,





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