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Give It UP!

I’m terrified. For real. What am I thinking?

After much thought and consideration, I’ve decided to give up reality TV for lent.

I know, it’s drastic. After all, I am the girl that made

cutting room floor, which did air. Ug. It is definitely youtube.com worthy. But, alas, it’s still too fresh. You’ll have to wait until I’m well into my 50’s before I resurrect that video.

Giving this up is a little traumatic today as I didn’t even have a proper good-bye. I was busy with my hubby last night (oh yea, taxes, get it!) and missed three of my faves, which makes me sigh an even bigger sigh. I am really hoping Brad makes it big as a stylist and Bethenny finds a little peace (and gets the apartment of her dreams). Tabatha, you keep taking keys and making grown men cry. Housewives of Wherever, I think we all know who the REAL housewives are, right? I think I will miss Abby Lee the most – she baffles me. I’d NEVER send my daughter to dance with her, but I love watching those that do. What IS that?


what in the heck



The only peace and quiet I have in a 24 hour cycle is the time after my sweet cherub goes to bed – roughly between 8 and 10pm. I started to think about the fact that I am out of my mind exhausted by this time of day and end up pouring myself into bed with my iPad and reality TV. Why do I choose to spend the only free hours of my day consumed by what other people do, have, say, etc?

It’s ridiculous.

There is an interesting parallel with my reality TV habit and any other habit we have that proves to be toxic – to body or mind.

(and, ok, toxic might be a LITTLE dramatic, but come on, I live on the same emotional scale as Kristen Bell demonstrated here)

You might be a sugar fiend or maybe you are starving your body from the physical activity it desperately needs.  Maybe you are surrounded by toxic relationships or are hindered by alcohol on a daily basis.

All of these things are toxic, and one is not cooler than the other.

They all suck.

I am choosing to use lent as a springboard for ME to rid myself of something that I feel is toxic in my life. Regardless of your religious practice, I challenge YOU to think about something that you could do without,

and……………….wait for it…………………


Do it because you are ONE TOUGH MUDDER! ha! ;-0

I’ve kicked a bad habit or two in my day.  It’s almost impossible to successfully take something out of your life without putting something else in its place. I’m sure Newton or some other dude has a law proving this. I can tell you from personal experience, it is true. Think of things you WANT that you feel are MISSING.

I want to read all these dusty books on my bookshelf – there are some GOOD ones!

I want to make a scarf….and a hat, for Ella. This is my Grams’ knitting basket:

I also miss my journal.

I’ve been writing in one since I was 13 years old and I’ve kept them all. Sometimes, on a rainy day, I go back and read them. I think of it as my living legacy – my own personal guide through life. Usually I’m too tired, but maybe if I reserve a little space in my day, and my mind, I will get back to it routinely.

Today is a day I will be meatless, I will write, I will practice yoga. I will sip coffee and catch the first twenty-minutes of the Today Show on my DVR. I’ll cook and clean, do laundry, and maybe organize a closet. I may or may not wear make-up or blow-dry my hair. I will hear “mommy” yelled from another room at least a thousand times and I’ll feel with every “I love you” it’s totally worth it. I’ll take care of my pets, child, and husband the best I know how.

And, at the end of the day, today, in those first quiet moments, it’s not going to be about who is at the top of the pyramid on Dance Moms or which housewife is the trashiest. It’s going to be. about. me.

Make today be. about. you.

Peace and love my friends xo


The Menu

“When planning for a year, plant corn. When planning for a decade, plant trees. When planning for life, train and educate people.” ~ Chinese Proverb

The HARDEST part of my week, honestly, is planning the menu.

The MOST IMPORTANT part of my week, seriously, is planning the menu.

This is my constant conundrum:   How does one prioritize something so important, when it is such a drag to accomplish?  Ug.

Finding the time to actually SIT DOWN and  THINK about what you might eat three days from now can seem both ridiculous and overwhelming.  This is why you MUST approach this task with…




I know, for those of us that like to:

  • be in charge
  •  maintain control
  • follow the directions
  • and NEVER, under any circumstances, color outside the lines…

…it’s tough to maintain a balanced approach. 

I am not sure that I will ever develop the perfect system or find the most amazing solution that takes away all the fear and chaos. However, I have learned that when I get overwhelmed about what to buy and then prepare, I go back to some of the concepts I discussed on the previous post, “Declaration of Self”.

~LISTEN ~ to the inner voice .

          ~ THINK ~ about how you will feel and what you need to do your LIFE!

               ~ PAY ATTENTION ~ to your emotions

What do you need as fuel this week?

What is going on in your world?

Is there a new recipie you’ve been wanting to try?

Do you need to counter-balance emotional eating with a little added protein?

Have you felt a loss of appetite?  Do you need to plan a special dinner (or even just dessert) with some good friends to connect and talk about what’s on your mind?

Is someone in your family being celebrated with a birthday, good news, etc?  Maybe you want to make a special meal in their honor?

Food is a great connector. 

One of the great concepts I learned from the most amazing nutritionist I have ever worked with (Barb Freeman) is the difference between eating and feeding.

An example of “eating” might be when you are driving and hand a chicken nugget back to the munchkin for fear of a mock 10 meltdown 😉  

“Feeding” is when you thoughtfully partake in a meal and connect with those around youThe food is not the focus, it’s an accessory.  The focus is the connection and sharing that enriches us as human beings.

Personally, whenever I want to disconnect from people, I tend to disconnect from food…or, I disconnect with balance and burry my emotions in ice cream.

My plan of attack on the menu is to

sit down,


write, and


Yes, order 😉 If you have online grocery shopping, DO IT!

I promise you will save money because you are not getting side-tracked every 2 seconds by things you absolutely do not need!  I still go to the store at times, but nothing beats ordering from my list in my jammies at 10 pm.  For me, it’s a total gift.

This is the template I use for my family’s menu:

You will notice that I haven’t completed page 2…I can’t think that far ahead this week!  Sometimes you have to think about the week in sections, and that’s ok!!

I’ve got what I need for now; I will sit down on Friday morning and see what’s on tap for the weekend.  I’m hoping for a date night, so that will mean some good stuff for the sitter, Ella, etc.

This is where flexibility and balance comes in. 

Rather than not do anything, because I don’t know what the weekend holds,

I do something because it’s only Monday and we need to fuel our lives starting now!

Please know that I am not a nutritionist and I am not making any recommendations for anyone.  I am going to see Barb soon, and I would guess her recommendation to me will be to remove the serving sizes attached to the food categories.  Everyone is different.  I left them on for now to give you a guide.

I really try to listen to my body.  Some days I might require an extra snack; some days I may not feel as hungry – I never force myself to eat exactly what I have planned.

You may wonder why my breakfast is always the same…it’s because I hate it.  I prefer black coffee until 10 or 11 am.  Unfortunately, that is not what my body needs.  Therefore, I found something that covers all bases nutritionally, and is easy for me to swallow (literally).  Skipping this meal can make or break my day and how I feel about myself.  I rarely skip it anymore – been there, done that.  So not worth it.

Take this for what it’s worth.  It’s a guide, something that has helped me.

Tracking a meal plan is related to this – I don’t do that too much anymore, but for those of you interested in tracking your intake, I can share a few different tools I have used that have worked well – more on that later 😉

Food is life.  Food is medicine.

Plan it, prepare it, enjoy it!

Bon Apetit!


p.s.  If this post freaks you out, and you have suffered or are suffering from any type of disordered eating, I encourage you to take some time to journal about




See what comes up…

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